About Iris

I help people rebalance because I had to learn it myself.

Coach, recovering strategy consultant, and firm believer that a good life shouldn’t feel this heavy.

Iris Calder smiling in an armchair in her bright Lisbon apartment

The short version

I didn’t plan to become a coach. I planned to become a partner at a consulting firm. Then my own life stopped fitting, and I had to find out why.

Iris sitting by the river in Lisbon at golden hour
  1. 2002

    Strategy consultant

    Eleven years advising companies across Europe on how to grow. Long hours, good results, very little life.

  2. 2013

    The wheel came off

    Burnout, then three months off work. I trained as a coach to fix myself, and realised I’d found my work.

  3. 2014

    First clients

    I started coaching friends of friends in the evenings. Within a year it was my full-time job.

  4. 2019

    Lisbon

    I moved for the light and the slower pace, and took my practice fully online.

  5. Today

    600+ clients in 31 countries

    One-to-one coaching, small groups, and a Sunday letter read by 4,000 people.

How I work

How I work

Coaching with me is practical, warm and honest. Three things guide every session.

Coaching with me is practical, warm and honest. Three things guide every session.

The whole picture first

We look at all eight areas of your life before we try to fix one. The problem you arrive with is rarely the one we end up working on.

Small, honest steps

One concrete experiment a week, sized so you can actually do it. Progress you can keep beats a plan you abandon.

Kind, not soft

I’ll ask the question you’ve been avoiding, gently, and then give you room to answer. You’ll never be judged, and never be flattered.

Training and credentials

I take the craft seriously. Coaching is an unregulated field, so I chose the most demanding accreditation I could find and I keep learning every year.

Professional Certified Coach (PCC), International Coaching Federation

Positive Psychology Coaching certificate

Acceptance and Commitment Coaching training

MSc in Organisational Psychology

Monthly supervision with a senior coach

Iris leading a small workshop beside a flipchart with a coloured wheel

A few things about me

Because you’ll be telling me a lot about your life, here’s a little about mine.

Morning swims at Carcavelos, all year

A shelf of half-read novels

Learning Portuguese, slowly and badly

Tea over coffee, except on Mondays

Two sourdough starters with names

Walks without a destination

Let’s look at your wheel together.

Book a free 30-minute clarity call. No pressure, no hard sell, just an honest conversation about what’s going on.

Let’s look at your wheel together.

Book a free 30-minute clarity call. No pressure, no hard sell, just an honest conversation about what’s going on.

Let’s look at your wheel together.

Book a free 30-minute clarity call. No pressure, no hard sell, just an honest conversation about what’s going on.

Let’s look at your wheel together.

Book a free 30-minute clarity call. No pressure, no hard sell, just an honest conversation about what’s going on.

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